Effective Communication

As a married woman, I have come to learn and understand what ineffective, and effective communication looks like. I am learning to resist the yelling; especially when I feel like I am not being heard. This school year, as I mentioned in a prior post, I am working in a fifth grade class. There are twenty eight students in the class, and nine of those students have major academic and behavioral issues. The teacher  and I spend the majority of the day, disciplining and correcting negative behavior. I have never seen such a patient teacher. He does not yell( and trust me, he has every right too). He is consistent with consequences. If he says the students will loose recess, he means It; and they miss their recess. If he  has to call a parent, he expresses his concerns, and then he listens; stays calm, and the outcome is usually successful. In our text, " Real Communication An Introduction", the authors describe competent communication as the process; "It is better to optimize outcomes for both partners than to fulfill the specific goals of the outcome or ". The process by which he communicate with students and parents is successful. Like Mr. G,  I desire to stay calm under stressful circumstances, and still communicate effectively.