Conflict Resolution

According to our text, " Real Communication An Introduction", " Conflict that is managed effectively is called "Productive Conflict"( O’Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). REAL COMMUNICATION AN INTRODUCTION (2ND ed.).  I am currently in a conflict with my co-teacher. Some of the strategies he uses, to change the behaviors of the class clowns, or those students who refuse to obey the class rules, are not fairly distributed. When one or more students do something inappropriately( ex. yell out or throw paper), he makes the entire class pay the price( loose recess or write). I approached him about this, and he responded by saying " I let the entire class, get mad at the people who is getting them into trouble". I do not feel like his approach is effective. The students have not stopped the negative behaviors. Using the NVC model, I have attempted to use empathetic listening as a way to open up a positive line of communication. One of NVC's concepts, is to emphasize compassion as a motivation for action rather than fear, guilt, shame and blame. We are not seeing a real change, because the teacher is not using compassion to motivate. My co-teacher and I are still in what the text describe as productive communication. We are definitely not In agreement with one another, but we are compromising. On Friday, the children were given free time in the computer lab. Prior to going to the lab, the same disruptive children began to act out. He( co-teacher) threatened the entire class. After I spoke with him, about the students who caused the confusion, he allowed all of the students except those who caused the ruckus, to proceed to the lab for free time.