This week, I learned that we can't always treat people the way we want to be treated, because they may want something different. The most diverse group in my circle right now, would be my colleagues. The differences in the way I communicate with my colleagues, has more to do with my relationship with each of them, verses our differences. I am more open about my feelings, concerning our work environment, family issues, and personal struggles (which at times can be stressful and chaotic) to the co-workers I have a more intimate relationship with, than I am with those I just met this year. Our differences( race, family identities etc.) does not change my way of communicating with any of them.
The three strategies I could use to communicate effectively would be:
1. Recognize my own beliefs, identities and schemas
2. Take the time to listen and identify the needs and desires of others, instead of assuming what they want or need.
3. Try to place myself in their position, by empathizing with them( others)
Example of inappropriate communication strategy:
Who wants to be treated this way?
Hello Magretta;
ReplyDeleteI loved reading your blog. I appreciate your honesty as you share your thoughts and feelings, specially when it comes to colleagues in a work environment.I totally understand how relationships impact our communication style with a coworker. It is my first year at a new school and I am in the process of establishing professional relationships with my co-workers. However, my approach and communication style is different. I am more reserved and more observant before I say something. Your strategies are well thought of, specially being emphatic to others, that is exactly what we teach children!
Hi Magretta,
ReplyDeleteThank you for you posting. I highly appreciate that you were able to remind us all that we have to look inside ourselves and analyze our schemas. Within these past few weeks, I have realized that troubles with communicating can come from within our own selves and the generalizations or stereotypes that we may have about other cultures.
-Beau
Magretta, I agree with you on your three strategies. Well put!! Especially the second one, we do not need to assume that we already know the needs and desires of others. They are different than us. Great reminder!
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